Why I dont do the Melbourne Kink Scene

In this episode, I discuss the hidden dynamics of Melbourne’s kink scene. The informal hierarchies, the performative friendships, & the subtle power games that keep some voices louder than others.

Drawing on Jo Freeman’s Tyranny of Structurelessness, I explore why “unstructured” groups often end up with invisible elites, & why navigating these dynamics becomes even more critical for neurodivergent kinksters.

I reflect on how I’ve separated myself from these circles in Melbourne, compared to living in other cities & countries, & share reflective prompts for maintaining autonomy, integrity, & boundaries while still engaging in the community.

Plus, if you’re a neurodivergent kinkster, new or experienced, stick around for a peek at NeuroKink Academy, where we cover somatics, boundaries, & how to navigate these social dynamics anywhere in the world.

 

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The link to the article is here: https://www.jofreeman.com/joreen/tyranny.htm

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